Early in my walk with Christ, there was a period of time when I was waiting tables. During that time there was a particular season where a number of customers would ask me if I was saved, or going to heaven, or something to that effect. I would answer yes and they would say "Are you sure?" or "How do you know?", something like that. These were different customers, they didn't know each other, and it would happen at different times.
To be perfectly honest, it was getting on my nerves. I was a Christian. I knew that I was going to heaven. So why were these people, who didn't know me, questioning my salvation? What made them think I wasn't a Christian? I wasn't doing anything sinful, so what was the deal?
One day I was waiting on a couple and at some point they asked if I was a Christian. I said I was and went back to doing my job. The next time I went to their table, the man had left the table to use the restroom, and the lady told me that what prompted the question was that they had been trying to decide if I was or wasn't a Christian. She said that her husband didn't think I was, but she thought so all along. I'm wondering now if they didn't have a little wager on it. :)
I am sure she told me this to encourage me, but what stayed with me was that this man didn't think I was a Christian. Neither one of them knew for sure, they were just guessing.
But aren't Christians supposed to look different than unbelievers? Shouldn't we stand out? Isn't that what the Bible says?
“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden." Matthew 5:14
So I began to ask God "If I'm supposed to look like a light in darkness, why can't people see the difference?"
I began to think about what it says in Matthew...
"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and
narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it." Matthew 7:14
From where I stood, I could only see one road, and it looked like a
very wide road with
a lot of people on it. Where was that other road and why didn't I look like I was on it. Even though I was a Christian, I realized that I didn't look much different than those who were not. It wasn't what I was doing that was the problem, but more the things I wasn't doing. Right then I asked God to put me on that narrow road and make sure I was not on the wide one. This ushered me into a serious spiritual growing stage and an even deeper relationship with my God.
I am certainly still a work in progress, but I can see both roads and which one I'm on. I'm so thankful that God put all those people in my path to bring this to my attention.
So what does your road look like?

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind ~ Luke 10:27